Tell your senators to pass H.R. 1620 – the “Violence Against Women Act” for ALL women! Close the “Boyfriend Loophole!”

Quote from Committee on the Judiciary, U.S. Senate, 2014, by Christopher Schmaling, Sheriff, Racine County, Racine, Wisconsin.

One would assume that legislation called the “Violence Against Women Act” included meaningful steps to prevent violence against women…

Apparently, Republicans and the NRA are willing to live with the Lautenberg Amendment, (for now) the 1996 law that removes guns from the abusive husbands or live-in boyfriends of their daughters, sisters and mothers. They are, however, unwilling to expand that protection to women threatened by violent dating partners or stalkers, despite statistics showing that victims of this “Boyfriend Loophole” are dying in equal or greater numbers. And they don’t give a hoot for the lives or opinions of law enforcement officers either. Sheriff Schmaling stated, “Abusers routinely threaten to shoot my deputies prior to our arrival at domestic violence calls….”

One bill – H.R.1906/S.527Protecting Domestic Violence and Stalking Victims Act specifically addresses the Boyfriend Loophole. However, the far more comprehensive H.R.1620Violence Against Women Act Reauthorization Act has already passed the House with it’s own loophole-closing language. Unfortunately, due to GOP/NRA opposition, senators have announced a compromise bill (S.3623) that scraps the House version’s Sec. 801 and 802 – proven “HOMICIDE REDUCTION” stategies against abusive boyfriends and stalkers.

This deal hasn’t passed either the House or the Senate yet. Currently, nine Senate Republicans back this compromise, though lawmakers will need one more for the bill to pass. Democrats say they’ll continue looking for a 10th Republican senator to support the deal, which won’t be able to pass the upper chamber until they find one.

Call your senators and be sure your friends and family in RED states call theirs.
All those threatened by gun violence by stalkers and violent partners of any kind, and the law enforcement officers often placed between them, should have equal access to the protection afforded to those covered by the original Lautenberg Amendment.

Minimal Script for DEM senators: I’m calling from [zip code] to ask Sen. [___] to strongly support H.R. 1620 – The “Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act” with its language closing the “Boyfriend Loophole”! Why would the senator deny women facing violent boyfriends and predatory stalkers equal access to the protections of the federal law against domestic violence. Why would you ignore the please of law enforcement officials whose officers have died protecting them? Do better for us!

Minimal Script for GOP senators: I’m calling from [zip code] to ask Sen. [___] to support H.R. 1620 – The “Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act with the language closing the “Boyfriend Loophole”! Surely the senator can imagine the terror [his/her] own daughter, sister or other relative would feel facing a violent boyfriend or a predatory stalker and being denied equal access to the protections of the federal law against domestic violence? Surely the senator knows that law enforcement officers have died while protecting women from armed boyfriends and stalkers and are in favor of expanding the Lautenberg Amendment protections through VAWA? I am disappointed that Republicans aren’t placing my family’s safety first and it’s something I will remember at the next election.

Email you senators as well (This script is from Everytown for Gun Safety. Add your own experiences as well):

Dear Senator, As your constituent, I urge you to support including the life-saving provisions that keep guns away from abusive dating partners in the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). We can take an important step towards reducing gun violence in America by ensuring that provisions that protect women from gun violence are part of the Senate Violence Against Women Act reauthorization bill—like the bipartisan House VAWA reauthorization bill that passed last year.

When a gun is present in a domestic violence situation, it’s five times more likely that the woman will be killed by her abusive partner. And intimate partner homicides are as likely to be committed by dating partners as by spouses. Now’s the time to address the deadly loopholes in federal law that let violent dating partners get their hands on guns.


  • Senator Feinstein: email, DC (202) 224-3841, LA (310) 914-7300, SF (415) 393-0707, SD (619) 231-9712, Fresno (559) 485-7430
  • and Senator Padilla: email, DC (202) 224-3553, LA (310) 231-4494, SAC (916) 448-2787,Fresno (559) 497-5109, SF (415) 981-9369, SD (619) 239-3884
  • Who is my representative/senator?:

Deeper Dive

Brief History of VAWA

Starting again: On March 17, 2021, the House passed the latest version of H.R.1620 – The “Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act” (VAWA), bipartisan legislation that’s been in effect since 1994, when it was first introduced by then-Senator Biden. At that time, domestic violence against women was considered a family matter, in which law enforcement authorities avoided involvement whenever possible. In a statement after the recent House vote, Biden said “writing and passing VAWA is one of the legislative accomplishments of which I’m most proud,” and urged the Senate to follow suit. “Growing evidence shows that Covid-19 has only exacerbated the threat of intimate partner violence, creating a pandemic within a pandemic for countless women at risk for abuse. This should not be a Democratic or Republican issue — it’s about standing up against the abuse of power and preventing violence.”

And the situation wasn’t great for women before the pandemic. According to CDC, approximately 1 in 4 women has experienced intimate partner violence (IPV) sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner. U.S. crime reports indicate that 16% (about 1 in 6) of homicide victims are killed by an intimate partner.

(Full CRS Report here.) VAWA has been updated and reauthorized three times – in 2000, 2005 and in 2013, after its 2012 renewal was opposed by conservative Republicans objecting to protections for same-sex couples and provisions allowing battered undocumented immigrants to claim temporary visas. Bipartisan updates over the years have included new programs to protect elderly and disabled women; mandatory funding for rape prevention and education; new protections for victims of trafficking, undocumented immigrants and Native American women; and expanded language to be inclusive to the LGBTQ community.

The act expired in late 2018 due to the government shutdown under Trump. It was temporarily reauthorized by a short-term spending bill on January 25, 2019, but expired again on February 15, 2019. The House passed VAWA as H.R. 1585 in April of 2019, whereupon it joined McConnell’s graveyard of stalled legislation.

The 2019/2021 update – NRA backlash: In 2019, VAWA passed the House with language expanding gun restrictions to dating partners and stalkers with misdemeanor convictions for domestic abuse or stalking, finally addressing the “boyfriend loophole” that left many women with unequal protection under the law. FBI data indicates that a boyfriend is nearly as likely as a husband to kill an intimate partner, so closing this loophole will save lives.

More than half of intimate partner homicides occur by a former or current dating partner…this is a really important group that we include within the definition of those prohibited from having firearms. We have seen a marked reduction of gun violence in states that have this law and certainly we would expect the same if we expanded the characterization to include ….dating partners and those that are convicted of stalking… More that 70% of homicide victims in intimate partner homicides are previously the victims of stalking.” – Robyn Thomas, Executive Director of Giffords Law Center.

It also proposed modifying federal law to allow gun restrictions after “ex parte” emergency restraining orders, (which ex-President Trump was oddly OK with) “…take the firearms first and then go to court,” Mr. Trump told Mr. Pence, adding, “because a lot of times, by the time you go to court, it takes so long to go to court to get the due process procedures. I like taking the guns early.” However, this new language spurred the NRA to get involved in VAWA’s renewal for the first time, rallying their legislative puppets in the GOP to object.

The 2019/2021 update – Transgender-issue backlash: The bill also strengthened protections for the LGBTQ+ community, including transgender women’s access to women’s shelters and ability to serve in prisons that match their gender identity. Jennifer Becker, deputy legal director of Legal Momentum, the oldest legal advocacy group for women in the country, stated “Everything that we advocate for in VAWA is based on the reality of what we know victims are being subjected to, and what we know survivors need to seek safety, accountability, healing. These provisions are central to ensuring that people stay alive.” (from Jewish Women International (JWI)). GOP legislators are seizing the opportunity to vilify gun restrictions and transgender aid at the same time and we should expect more of it as the 2021 bill hits the Senate floor.

Critical Parts of the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act of 2019 (H.R. 1585)(H.R. 1620)

  • No rollbacks from protections in previously passed versions of VAWA
  • Firearms – Expands the federal law prohibiting individuals convicted of misdemeanor dating violence and stalking from being able to purchase or possess a firearm – closing the “boyfriend loophole”.
  • Prevention – Increases funding for programs that promote healthy relationships and reduce gender-based violence.
  • Tribal – Promotes safety for victims of violence on tribal lands: ensuring non-Indian perpetrators who commit sexual assault, stalking, child abuse, and trafficking on tribal lands are held accountable.
  • Housing – Enforces housing rights for survivors/victims & increases options to maintain housing or break their leases.
  • Economic Justice – Promotes economic security for survivors and assists with supports to leave abusers by allowing domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking victims to be eligible for unemployment insurance.
  • Criminal Justice – Creates a new grant to implement alternative justice responses that are focused on victim autonomy.
  • Rape Survivors – protects rape survivors from predatory billing practices for their test kits.
  • LGBTQ+ – Protects people from gender identity discrimination, and introduces support programs for survivors of domestic violence.

Where are we now, in 2021: H.R.1620 shares much of the 2019 version, and adds expanding survivors’ access to housing and extending “the jurisdiction of tribal authorities over non-Indians who commit a crime in Indian country,” among other new protections. Rep. Deb Haaland (D-N.M.), who was just confirmed by the Senate to lead the Interior Department as the first Native American Cabinet secretary, is one of the cosponsors of the bill. It has strong supporters, along with usual objections from the GOP over guns and LGBTQ+ issues:

The “Boyfriend Loophole” issue

Houston Police Chief Art Acevedo blasts the NRA, U.S. Senators after Houston officer’s murder.

In 1996, two years after the introduction of VAWA, the Domestic Violence Offender Gun Ban, also called the “Lautenberg Amendment,” was passed, which banned access to firearms by people convicted of crimes of domestic violence against an “intimate partner“. The law was intended to close an existing gap in domestic violence prosecutions under the federal Gun Control Act of 1968 (GCA), as these types of crimes were usually charged as a misdemeanor or, through plea-bargain agreements, reduced from a felony to a misdemeanor. Amazingly, the Senate at that time voted almost unanimously for it.

Due to the Lautenberg Amendment, a conviction for a misdemeanor crime of domestic violence now represents the third-most frequent reason for denial of an application to purchase a firearm by the FBI, after a felony conviction and an outstanding arrest warrant. It has prevented over 100,000 such offenders from purchasing guns.

Sen. Lautenberg (D-NJ) stated that his bill “stands for the simple proposition that if you beat your wife, you should not have a gun,” with the best of intentions. Perhaps too simple. The “intimate partner“defined in the bill limited its protection to those relationships that were “sexual and involving cohabitation or a child in common.More clearly:

  • Be a current or former spouse, parent, or guardian of the victim.
  • Be a child in common with the victim.
  • Be a current or former cohabitant with the victim as a spouse, parent, or guardian.
  • Be similarly situated to a spouse, parent, or guardian of the victim.

This left out physically abusive ex-boyfriends and stalkers with previous convictions, creating what is now known as the “Boyfriend Loophole.” Approximately 20 states have moved to fix this issue, with laws that ban abusive dating partners and stalkers from obtaining guns and allow all women to obtain domestic violence restraining orders. Statistics now show that women are now just as likely to be killed by a dating partner or a stalker as a spouse.

VAWA would expand the federal law’s “intimate partner” definition to include a dating partner or former dating partner with the term “dating partner” referring to a person who is or has been in a social relationship of a romantic or intimate nature with the abuser; and the existence of such a relationship is based on a consideration of: (1) the length of the relationship; (2) the type of relationship; and (3) the frequency of interaction between the persons involved in the relationship.

The “Ex-parte” issue.

This is a quote from a women’s law site in Arkansas. Most women can immediately identify with the fear behind this question, even those who’ve never had to carefully plan how to safely leave an abusive relationship.

Domestic Violence protective orders can be issued after notice and a hearing, or they can be issued in emergency circumstances without a full hearing involving the respondent (ex parte means “one party). According to a lesser known clause of the Lautenberg Amendment, federal law mandates that gun restrictions apply ONLY after a full hearing, where both parties are heard, giving the suspected abuser the opportunity to contest claims that they pose a theat. However, many states already require or authorize courts to prohibit the possession or purchase of firearms by people subject to emergency ex parte orders when a judge believes that the abuser presents a clear and present danger of violence. In CA, these orders can apply to a number of situations, including domestic abuse and stalking.

Researchers tested whether states that applied firearm restrictions to ex parte orders experienced a decrease in their intimate partner homicide trends, and found that, compared to states without a state level domestic violence restraining order firearm restriction law, states that have the law and cover ex parte orders experienced an associated 13% decrease in intimate partner homicide and 16% decrease in firearm intimate partner homicide (Zeoli et al., 2017) When a state had the restraining order firearm restriction but did not cover ex parte orders, there was no statistically significant difference between their intimate partner homicide rates and the rates of states without the restraining order firearm restriction. This suggests that covering ex parte orders may save lives.

VAWA, in both the 2019 (H.R. 1585) and current form, would also expand the scope of “protection orders” or “court-order restraints” under 18 U.S.C. §§922(d)(8) and (g)(8) to include restraining orders issued after an “ex parte” hearing. Temporary orders last for the period of time stated in the order, usually up to 20 days. The NRA believes confiscation of guns, or banning purchase of guns during the period before the hearing a violation of due process. Rep. Kevin Hern (R-Okla.) tried to amend the 2021 version, stating that VAWA can’t take away a person’s constitutional right to bear arms “based on an allegation where such person does not have the opportunity to contest such allegation.” 

The Stalking issue.

According to the Gifford Law Center, – “Stalking is a strong predictor of future violence. Under current federal law, individuals convicted of felony stalking offenses are prohibited from accessing guns. But individuals convicted of misdemeanor stalking offenses are not prohibited from accessing guns if the stalking offense was not in the context of a domestic relationship. Several states have gone above and beyond federal law to prohibit stalkers from purchasing or possessing guns, including CA, CN, HI, MN, NM, NY, ND, OR, PA, and RI.

VAWA would fix the Lautenberg Amendment loophole too, granting federal protection to those stalking victims not covered by the “imtimate partners” clause and making any person convicted of a “misdemeanor crime of stalking” a tenth category of prohibited persons, ineligible of receiving or possessing a firearm or ammunition.

Stalking is generally defined as “a course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated (two or more occasions) visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, or verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof, that would cause a reasonable person fear.” Stalking often includes unwanted communication, including phone calls, text messages, emails, and social media messages; following or watching the victim from a distance; and unexpectedly appearing at locations where the victim is known to be present, such as home, school, or work. Stalking poses significant concerns for the safety of a victim, as this is an ongoing course-of-conduct crime that tends to escalate in frequency and severity. Stalking also has a devastating psychological impact on victims, even when the threatening conduct has stopped. Victims of stalking report experiencing elevated rates of traumatic stress, excessive fear, and anxiety. These effects have a lasting impact on a victim’s quality of life and can lead to disruptions in social interactions and employment.

Although stalking cases can be hard to document and prosecute, they are treated as a serious crime under both federal and state law. However, many courts and prosecutors will allow a defendant to plead to a misdemeanor-level charge in order to expedite proceedings, especially if the victim does not wish to participate in an extended criminal proceeding. With the updated VAWA, those convicted would still face firearms restrictions.

The GOP/NRA’s response tends to minimize or dismiss the increasingly well-known consequences of stalking, such as 54% of victims reported stalking to the police before they were killed by their stalkers, 1 out of 7 stalking victims moved because of their victimization, and 1 out of 4 stalking victims contemplated suicide.

Jennifer Baker, a spokeswoman for the N.R.A., said that for “many of those ‘offenses’ — and I’m using air quotes here — the behavior that would qualify as a stalking offense is often not violent or threatening; it involves no personal contact whatsoever. Like if you were sending harassing messages to somebody on Facebook, to somebody you never met or somebody you dated five years ago,” she said, adding, “How it’s written right now, you could be convicted for a misdemeanor stalking offense for a tweet that causes someone emotional distress and then you would be prohibited from owning a firearm.” She argues that the new provision is “too broad and ripe for abuse.”

(Read “Why This Teen Walked Away From Millions of TikTok Followers“)

Victim advocates find the N.R.A.’s argument far-fetched. “A single tweet or Facebook message, without significant other conduct, would ordinarily not be enough” to result in a conviction for stalking, said David Keck, director of the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence and Firearms, which provides guidance to law enforcement and governments on implementing firearms prohibitions, but takes no position on the new domestic violence act provision.

The transgender-women-in-women’s-shelter issue.

Otherwise known as the “Women in Women’s shelter” issue, this is the latest chapter of the GOP’s bathroom panics, where they attempt to demonize a vulnerable minority for political gain.

The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy Institute and the National Coalition for the Homeless have shared their vast hands-on experience in running homeless facilities that include transgender residents in an amazing handbook here.

It covers definitions, health and legal issues, before getting down to the issues that seem to perpetually upset the GOP. Basically, shelters should create an environment that treats every resident with dignity, which includes providing privacy for basic health and hygiene issues. This is good for transgender people, families with children, the disabled, the elderly, the abused, and anyone else who’s had the misfortune of losing their housing.

  • Restrooms: Short answer – put lockable doors on stalls, or make a room lockable. Nobody likes being watched or walked in on while using the toilet.
  • Showers: Gang showers are a holdover from gyms of the 50’s, before cellphones cameras and the internet were a threat. People should have a basic right to privacy when they are at their most vulnerable. Older facilities can put in curtains between shower heads or make a separate room lockable.
  • Sleeping Arrangements: Let people who feel vulnerable choose sleeping areas within eyesight of staff.
  • Dealing with harrassment and the concerns of other residents: Counseling and trainings for other residents have been effective in creating mutual respect.

If taxpayer-funded shelters run by religious groups can’t or won’t provide these basic requirements to one group, such as transgender women, then it must be assumed that they are falling short of the needs of other clients as well. We expect our legislators to use our tax dollars wisely and redirect funding to more capable groups.

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